“How long will this last?”
Have you ever asked yourself this question when something great happens in your life? You experience a moment of sheer jubilation and peace and then… BAM! Instantly, your excitement dies and a feeling of dread takes over. In that moment, you are more concerned about when the happiness will end, rather than enjoying the ride. I don’t know about you, but this happens to me all of the time. Whenever I meet someone new and I feel a strong connection with them, I think, “Oh, great! This is nice! I have a new friend for at least a good six months!” Yeah, I know. It’s pretty sad, right? Well, it happens. But, I am beginning to understand why it happens.
We fear the ending of happiness. We fear falling from success. We fear the loss of great friendships and loves. We just flat out fear a good thing coming to an end. At times, the fear can become so intense that we end up holding ourselves back from fully enjoying anything great. Sometimes, we don’t even attempt to try at all. This is because we have convinced ourselves that happy moments will only lead to disappointment and pain. We associate love with heartbreak and joy with sorrow. So, we “protect” ourselves from those things. I mean, after all, who likes losing what brings them joy? But, you should know this:
Too many of us are not living our dreams, because we are living our fears.”
– Les Brown
It’s true. Nothing lasts forever. But, should we let that discourage us from enjoying happiness and following our passions? Look, there are so many opportunities in life that only come around once. Instead of focusing on how long that opportunity will last, start focusing on the moment. Enjoy the ride and everything that comes with it. Toss that clock to the side and allow yourself to just enjoy the good times that you’ve been given. We can’t predict the outcome of many things in life, but we can at least try to appreciate the happy moments that we are blessed to have, while we have them. So, if you have a chance at love, go for it. If you have a chance at a better life for yourself, go for it. If you have a chance at living your dreams, go for it. Don’t let the fear of disappointment hold you back.
Appreciate the NOW and let tomorrow take care of itself.
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