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Talk Sex

Dirty talk stimulates my inner beast,
but leaves me without inner peace.
Intellectually frustrated.
In need of a soulful fix.
You rise, but emotionally
I reach no peak.

Satisfied physically —
Mentally, I fake it.
Was it good?
Yeah, for you.
But my heart is seeking more.
You say you go deep…
Is this what I’ve been waiting for?

Is this the extent of your conversation?
Oh yeah, baby! Say my name?
Where’s the depth that you promised
when you’re talking to me?

I need someone that makes me go deeper
mentally, emotionally, soulfully.
Someone that turns me on
without stripping off his clothes.
I need someone that takes my mind to a whole other level.
Makes me feel as if it’s traveling
into another dimension.
Leaves me feeling as if they just made love
to the deepest parts of my soul.
Yeah, you’re good at talking sex,
but I need your intellect
because I’m all about being satisfied wholly.
Not just physically.
Don’t just open the legs,
but open my heart and mind.
Don’t just say my name when we make love,
but speak with substance as you speak of love.
I need more than sex to keep me smiling.
I need to be touched in places that cannot be seen.
Yeah, talk sex all you want, baby…
But, eventually, even that will bore me.


Manessah B.

Couch Talks, Wisdom & A Cup of Joe


50 thoughts on “Talk Sex”

    1. Yeah I agree. A lot of people are all talk but when they are forced to play their hand, they come up short. Come with substance, or go home. Be ready for what you say you’re going to bring and don’t waste time.

      Thank you for the kind compliment, Andrew. Always appreciate it.


  1. This is so true and is something I’ve thought about often. It made me realize communication is vital and getting to know the person not just from a physical level but emotionally and mentally as well. Thank you for this wonderful piece Brandi.

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    1. I’m so glad that you appreciate the message in this post, Hasan. I agree. Being able to communicate with someone on a much deeper level than the physical is vital. There’s so much more to life than the physical and I think so many people think that because they connect physically, that it is enough. Connecting through the heart and mind are just as important as connecting through the body, at least in my opinion.

      Thank you so much for your thoughtful response and for taking the time to share your thoughts with me, Hasan. I really do appreciate your words.

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  2. Brilliantly written, and so true. Sex and physical attraction just aren’t enough to fulfil us. We need to be breath taken by someone’s wisdom or passion. By their intelligence. By their kindness perhaps. Beautifully put ❤

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    1. Exactly! That’s exactly the point I was trying to make with this poem. It takes more than the physical to make a person fully happy. To connect beyond that is a beautiful thing. ☺️

      Thank you so very much for your very kind compliment, Pixie! I really do appreciate you taking the time to read and share your beautiful thoughts with me! 💚

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  3. wow


    So we have both followed beauty to find depth.

    You won’t know or shouldn’t believe this yet, but I think this post is profound, I know what you are saying and can’t believe I’m hearing it.

    More later is their is God or good in the universe.

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  4. I absolutely feel everything about this and I’m so glad that someone else has put it into words. My brain can only interpret it as a Disney/Lifetime(love) story that I’m hoping to stumble upon and stop using my body as a defense mechanism to rejection. Yearning to reject my significant other of this “dual pleasure”, when it is only physical pleasure. Therefore, not acceptable. But I pretend to want it. I am thirsty for this transcendence and apathetic towards anymore love interests simultaneously. I feel broken. So many ways. I have no clue how people fix themselves.
    -🧩 I hope you find your missing puzzle piece. ♥️ – Jazz

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    1. I am so happy and humbled that this post touched you, Jazz! I truly understand what you mean about seeking something more, something beyond, the physical connection with someone. I just think that to truly connect with someone, we should at least try to connect with the other parts of what makes them who they are, as well. And I’m very happy that message resonated with you!

      Thank you so very much for taking the time to read this post and to share your wonderful thoughts! I truly do appreciate it and your kind words! I hope I find my missing puzzle piece, too! Much love to you! 💕

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    1. You are so very kind, my dear friend! Thank you!! I really wanted to drive home the message that it’s so important to connect with someone on all levels, not just one (the physical). That deep connection, I feel, is what makes a relationship really thrive.



  5. Your words tough me in the deepest way! You are a beautiful soul, my dear friend!
    I clutch on to every word!
    It seems to be very rare these days, but it does exist! Until you find it, Focus on your dreams and when the right person comes along he will be cheering you on to continue on, following your dreams and creating your best version of yourself!

    After many years of mental and emotional abuse from my ex husband I realized, He was cutting me down and trying to break me because I was strong and resilient! I accepted myself and that day I stood up and left. Never looked back! Not going to say I haven’t had bad days, hard days, but never did I regret my decision! I realized I didn’t want a man if I had to stand down, or not be myself to please him. If they can’t accept and love me for who I am then they can keep walking! I do not need a man! I would like a partner but only if it is the right person when the time comes! Until then I will sparkle and share love on my own!

    Lovely! You are Beautiful!

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    1. Oh, J… your comment is so heartfelt and warm. I’m truly touched by your words and you always, always bring the biggest smile, not only to my face, but to my heart and soul. Thank you so much for that. Reading this comment is like receiving the biggest and warmest hug from you! ☺️🤗

      I am so honored and humbled that you shared a piece of your life story with me. Like you, I’ve been in some emotionally and mentally abusive relationships… the kinds where you are always left questioning if there is something wrong with you. I’ve been body shamed. I’ve been put in situations where I am compared to another woman. I’ve been made to feel like I’m not good enough or worthy enough to be appreciated and loved, I’ve been called derogatory names… but when I had my near death experiences and was forced to live with a disability, I learned how to love myself. I saw life was too short to spend time with people who only want to bring me down. Life’s not meant to be lived as a prisoner. So reading your words gives me such a feeling of joy, because you found the courage and strength to say “I’m out. I deserve better”. You left. I’m so proud of you and so happy that you see your worth, your beauty and potential and you’re not letting anyone or anything get in the way! (high five) ✋

      I pray that, one day, Mr. Right will come along for me. Like you, I don’t NEED a man in my life, but it would be nice to have someone special to share my dreams, love and happiness with. Life just seems more fulfilling when we have loved ones to share it with. Until then, I will focus on my dreams and work on me. I’ll try to keep my eyes open for that special man (though some days it’s hard to keep the faith that he’s out there lol). I spread the love in my heart out to you guys, because I’d rather share my heart with you and so many others, than keep it locked inside of me.

      You are such a beautiful person, J! You deserve tons and tons of happiness and love and just every dream you ever had to come true! I hope that you find your special partner in life and that he fills your world with love! Thank you for being such an awesome and supportive friend! I’m so happy I met you!!! (hugs)

      Much love to you, J!!!! xoxoxo

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      1. I know that being alone and not having someone to share life’s many moments with is hard! Probably one of the hardest things I have gone through and learning to accept.
        However being with someone that doesn’t appreciate and love us as we are the person that we are created to be, only pulls us down, chains us to despair.
        I am so grateful that we met and have become such strong friends! When you are feeling alone or questioning what to do. You can always contact me! For a while I went through a string of Men in and out, thinking I only deserved what I could get! But I realized I wanted to be and follow my dreams more than I wanted to be accepted by them! All they wanted as you said was the here and now, it didn’t even go skin deep! I knew It was best for me to just stand alone! Hard as it has been, I have become stronger, endured through and learned to stand on my own! Now I love it!
        Like you during my marriage I went through a lot of derogatory comments, isolation, and terror all the time. I knew I had a choice! Leave or die! He used my blindness against me, and ridiculed me on everything! Having my kids was paradise compared to the hell I lived through with him! Most importantly, I didn’t want my children growing up thinking his actions were ok! I realized the example I was leading for them. I did not want my son growing up thinking it was ok to abuse women! Or my daughter to think it was alright to submit to a man and allow anyone to harm them, physically, mentally or psychologically! I wanted them to know to stand up for your beliefs and stand firm! It has been a winding road but I am so glad that I made my own path without being drug down his!
        Don’t ever give up hope! It will happen when the time is right!

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  6. I am near tears reading this, but GOOD tears. Your words touch my soul so much, J. You are such a beautiful and wonderful friend and I so appreciate your open door to communication with you! Anytime you need to talk, I am here, as well. I think that’s the one thing that makes this place feel like home for me and that’s the fact that we all seem to help each other in so many ways. Our experiences can be shared and used as a positive tool to inspire and make a difference in so many people’s lives and I feel honored that you shared your experiences of struggle and triumph with me. It really means a lot. ☺️

    Like you, I was once at a stage where I was dating guys, not really bold enough to put my foot down and say what I needed to thrive as a person. I kind of took crap and, even though I knew I shouldn’t, I allowed it because I was afraid of losing love, or a friend. Then I woke up and realized I can do bad all by myself. Who needs people calling them names, making them feel like they are lower than dirt? I was bullied really badly growing up and I think my fear of not being understood and accepted played a big part in how I allowed guys to treat me. Now, I’m older and don’t care. What you see is what you get. If you don’t like it, there’s the door. That’s my attitude now. And, from what I read in your comment, you have acquired the same attitude! lol

    I’m so happy that you stood up for, not only yourself, but for your children. Yes, I agree. They need a good example set for them and you definitely made the right decision by leaving that abusive situation behind and providing them with a positive environment! Good for you!!! You are an inspiration, my friend!!

    Thank you so much for the encouragement and love, J! I know when the time is right, my soulmate will come along. I’ve had so many disappointments, I’m just hoping that, one day, I will be able to breathe and say FINALLY!! Lol! You are so sweet and I hope you have a beautiful night and an even more amazing day when the sun rises! Sending you the biggest hugs and lots of love!!! 😊💕


    1. Your words humble me. Thank you so much for taking the time to read and share your amazing thoughts with me. I truly do appreciate it! Very happy this post could speak to you!


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