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How One Becomes Wise

* This post was inspired by a quote that I love and a conversation I had with my beautiful mom, recently.  Thanks, Mama. (smile)

How One Becomes Wise

It was one of those lazy kind of Friday afternoons.  The kind where you lounge around like Bruno Mars saying you don’t feel like doing anything (just minus the chimps dancing around you).  Anyways, I was having a conversation with my mom and we were just talking about life stuff. While I was talking to her, I noticed that she started smiling admiringly at me and so I gave her that slightly confused “do I have a green stuck in my tooth” kind of look.  She then asked me,

“How did you get so wise?”

I looked at her and let out a little laugh.  This is a woman that is thirty years older than me asking me, ME, how I got so wise.  Smiling, I simply said,

“From being stupid.”

Of course, we both busted out laughing after I said that (my dad threw in his loud “Ha!” in the background), but it was the honest truth!  I wasn’t born knowing what I know now.  One has to first be a fool, before they can become wise. I mean, how can you teach anyone anything, if you never allow yourself to be a student?  Life is a university and everyone we meet on its campus is a teacher AND a student.  All of us are currently enrolled in life courses that cover things like falling in love, dealing with heartbreak, even learning how to identify real friends from fake ones. Notice how I said we ARE enrolled, not we WERE.  That’s because life is a school where we are ALWAYS learning and we never really “graduate”. We simply become collectors of life lessons as we go through life, using those experiences as a guide to help us avoid future pitfalls. But, sometimes, we are faced with difficult situations that we are not yet prepared for, because they are experiences we have never really dealt with. Think about the first time you found out you were going to be a parent, or your first time in a serious relationship.  You had no clue what to do, let alone what to expect, right? We do the best we can with the knowledge we have acquired from past experiences and mistakes, but sometimes we are presented with a situation, in which we do not yet have the know-how to deal with. Basically, we become inexperienced all over again. Those kind of moments happen to show us that there is still so much about life we have yet to learn and that there will always be room left for us to grow. No matter how old we get and how wise we think we have become, we will always be presented with situations that remind us that we will never really know everything there is to know about life. As we advance through life, the lessons will get harder.  They will challenge us and push us to the brink of giving up. There’s a reason why they say “We live and we learn”. 

You shouldn’t be so hard on yourself when you discover that you’ve made a wrong decision about something, or that you were not perceptive enough to avoid a situation.  Even the smartest people on the planet have moments when they are the not-so-bright lightbulb in the package (trust me… I KNOW). Whenever you make a mistake, don’t look at it as a failure but as a lesson learned.  Yes.  Sometimes those mistakes can cost us a lot.  We may lose friends, or get our hearts broken.  Shoot. We may lose a bit of dignity along the way.  But you know something? That’s alright. Without mistakes, we would have no teachers.  Somebody had to make the mistakes to tell us how to do it RIGHT. So, the next time you talk to a wise man, or woman, and wonder how they got all their wisdom, just remember that they got that way because…

They are experiencing life at a rate of several WTF’s per hour.


Manessah B.

Couch Talks, Wisdom & A Cup of Joe



* Image courtesy of Google


48 thoughts on “How One Becomes Wise”

  1. 🙌🙌🙌 It’s just as you eloquently said Brandi. Life itself is our greatest teacher and we learn each and everyday whether good or bad. The older I get the more I appreciate and understand this journey called life. I understand now when they use to say ‘Live, Laugh and Love’ your way through life. Amazing piece and a wonderful message as well.

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    1. Wow! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughtful response to this, Hasan! I am learning to appreciate this journey through life, as well. It’s not easy many days and sometimes I have to catch myself and remember to not be so hard on myself, because everyday I’m learning and growing. There’s no stopping in that process, until I give my last breath. Yes, “live, laugh and love” is one of my favorite quotes because it’s so true. While living, we should enjoy every moment (good and bad) and learn to find the joy in everything and love life even more.

      I am so happy that you enjoyed this post, my friend. And I’m humbled that you were moved by the message in it. That really makes me happy to know that. Thank you so very much for the kind words and for always taking the time to read and share your thoughts with me, Hasan! I hope you are having a beautiful weekend, my friend! ☺️

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      1. You are so very welcome, Hasan, and thank you for always doing the same. I’m very happy that your weekend is going great so far and I so appreciate your warm wishes for me. I’m having a marvelous weekend. Thanks, again!

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  2. i love her proud Mama moment, i have those once in awhile, when i see my girls such elegant and wise young women. you have used your experiences in life to make you a better person and by sharing them enriching our lives too. this was a wonderful post

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    1. Aww… I’m sure you have the same look on your face as my mom did whenever your kids do something that makes you so proud. I’m so happy that you were touched by this post, Gina! And it feels good to know that my experiences are helping others in a positive way! Thank you for always being so supportive and encouraging of what I share from my life. I really do appreciate it from the bottom of my heart, my dear friend.

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      1. Your comment touches my soul, Gina… You have made a huge difference in my life, as well. I am so thankful for you and so many others I have met along this blogging journey and I thank you for being who you are. You are a beautiful person and a wonderful friend. (HUGS)

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    1. LOL! Oh my gosh, YES! What you say is SO true! 😆 At that time, we have all the answers, right? Think we have it all figured out, even when those much wiser than us were telling us to watch out for that ditch. We just kept on walking, but we learned! Lol.

      I’m so glad that line touched you, my friend! It got a good laugh out of my mom and dad! LOL.
      Thank you for taking the time to share your awesome thoughts with me! Hope you’re doing fantastic! 😁

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  3. This was one insightful read. Indeed, we all learn as we grow. Something from our own experiences, some by observing others. But I personally feel that more than learning, we come across realizations. We do a mistake, and life teaches us a lesson. But is it really something new? Deep down somewhere, we always knew it. Its just that we never got the courage to accept it. If we take out time to introspect and contemplate we will realise that our own soul and mind has all the treasures.

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    1. Oh thank you so much, M, for your thoughtful response! Yes, you have a huge point in what you said. Many things in my life I’ve learned simply through observation of others – learning from their experiences and also doing my best to apply it to my own life, as well. Other times, I learned from first hand experience. Either way, I learned something valuable. I’m a believer that nothing is really new, as you said. History has a way of repeating itself, just coming in a different form. Deep down we can pick up on familiar feelings and situations and hopefully search our souls and accept what that voice within is saying. Hopefully I made sense when I wrote that. Lol.

      I truly do appreciate your insight and your wonderful thoughts, my dear friend. Always a pleasure learning from your perspective and exchanging thoughts with you! Thank you for taking the time to read and share your thoughts with me, M!

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      1. So glad it’s going well, my friend! Thank you for the kind well wishes, Bill. I’m having a very peaceful evening.

        Wishing you a beautiful night and a wonderful Monday morning, when it comes for you! 🙂


  4. Ha! I love the way you make me laugh, Dear Brandi! You had me laughing with you and your Mom! Been there done that! And like you, I do love trying to keep others from falling into the holes I have fallen into!!! Bellissimo, My Dear, Bellissimo!!

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    1. LOL! Yes, with me and my parents, there’s never a dull moment! haha! I’m so happy this could bring a bit of laughter to you, my friend. It must be the guardian angel in us that wants to help others avoid the pitfalls we’ve been in! Nothing wrong with that at all! Thank you so much for your kind words and for taking the time to leave your beautiful thoughts with me, Chuck! You are so much appreciated, my friend! Much love to you!!!

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      1. You are very welcome and thank YOU for taking the time to read and comment! Yes… definitely helpers we are! 😁

        Hope you are having a beautiful day, my dear friend! Sending a bunch of love and hugs your way! xoxoxo

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    1. Thank you so much, Manish! I’m so glad you enjoyed this post and the quote you shared is so true. I really appreciate you taking the time to share it with me and taking the time to share your thoughts, as well. Much appreciated!


    1. Aw thank you, dear Efi!! You know… it’s funny you mention that quote because #1 … It is one of my FAVE quotes and #2… that quote was on my mind the whole entire time I was writing this post! It’s like YOU KNEW!

      Thank you for always sharing the most thoughtful things with me, my friend!! You always bring a smile to my face and I learn so much from you! Hope you are doing well, Efi! HUGS & KISSES!!!!

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    1. Haha! I love how you gasped before saying wise! LOL! Thank you for that sweet compliment, Sky! You are truly a gem! I’m so happy you enjoyed this post and that it touched you. Hope you’re having a beautiful night, lovely! 😉😊

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