This post is a continuation of something I wrote previously entitled 4 Things I Learned About Social Media While Scrollin’ & Clickin’. If you would like to read that post, please feel free to check it out here. Okay. Let’s just dive right on in, shall we? Here are another set of four things I learned about social media, while scrollin’ and clickin’…
1. TRY NOT TO TAKE A COMPLETE STRANGER’S POSTS PERSONALLY, EVEN IF YOU KNOW FOR A FACT THEY ARE INSULTING YOU.
Back when I used to have a Twitter account, the trending topic #oomf (short for “one of my followers”) was used all the time by some tweeters to talk about someone they followed, or a person that followed them. For some people, this was simply a fun way of messing with someone’s head and giving tweeters that they secretly admired a compliment (Ex: Damn! #oomf is hot as hell!). However, there was a dark side to this trending topic. Some tweeters would use it as a way to hurl insults towards someone they followed and that followed them, opening the door to replies from a bunch of offended tweeters who assumed it was about them (Ex: #oomf is so fake.). This is where a person can start becoming a bit paranoid. Posts like these can make you believe that they were intended for you when, in fact, it was originally intended for someone else. That’s why it is best to try and not take the things you read online so personally, even if what’s written fits you. Remember that many of the people you follow online are complete strangers going through some of the same experiences that you and I are going through in life. Sometimes what we read makes us feel as if the author has been rummaging through our life’s closet and invading some of our most intimate thoughts, but remember that life happens to them too. There are tons of people on the internet who have been heartbroken, deceived, in love and in rage, just like you, and are writing about it. More than likely, they are not even thinking about you as they are venting. However, if you know for a fact that someone is writing insulting things about you in their posts, it’s best to just pay no mind to it and move along. Unfollow them and avoid contact if needed. This will prevent you from getting lured into an argument and fueling the drama they seek… which leads us to the next thing I learned about social media, while scrollin’ and clickin’…
2. SOME PEOPLE JUST LOVE DRAMA.
Let’s face it. Social media can sometimes be like a grade school playground and, like with all playgrounds, you’ll run into your fair share of bullies throwing rocks. In this case, the rock throwing bullies are called trolls. These trolls can come in the form of a follower who just doesn’t like you for some reason and decides to post negative things about you on a daily basis, or an ex boyfriend or girlfriend that simply wants to make your life online a living hell anonymously. Whatever the case may be, these people are fueled by one thing: Drama. It’s simply best to just avoid any confrontation with these kind of people, because confrontation is exactly what they want. They are fueled by your anger and hurt and are always ready for an online fight. So, practice the art of ignoring fools. Moderate your comments, or make great use of the blocking features on your social media accounts. Your calm reaction is literally the online equivalent of flashing a troll your middle finger.
3. BE CAREFUL THAT YOU’RE NOT USING SOMEONE ELSE’S COMMENT SECTION AS A PROMOTIONAL TOOL FOR YOURSELF.
I’ve learned over the years that there’s such a thing as social media etiquette. There are certain things that we should not do while we’re online and one of those things is using someone else’s comment section as a promotional tool for ourselves. Nothing comes off as more discourteous than seeing a commenter who makes no mention of our work in their comment to us, but has no problem requesting that we read their work. Imagine that you wrote a heartfelt post about your dog, or cat, dying and someone leaves a comment that simply says “Check out my latest post”. Now, imagine that you actually take the time to check out their post and discover that it’s not even about a dog or cat dying, but about how you can make your butt look bigger in jeans. It makes the author of the post feel as if what they’ve written is not even important to the commenter and that all they’re really concerned about is what the author can do for them. If we want people to read what we have to share, we must be willing to reciprocate that same courtesy to others. I’m not saying that you should never share links to your posts, blogs or websites. I completely understand that it’s a method that is used to drive traffic to your website and gain followers, and that’s perfectly fine. However, I am saying that we should try to be courteous, while doing so. Take the time to actually read and leave a thoughtful comment about someone’s work, before making requests that benefit you. When you show that you’re actually taking a genuine interest in someone else’s posts, you open the door for them to do the exact same thing for you.
4. NEVER BE AFRAID TO BE THE BOSS OF YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNT.
Your house. Your car. Your computer. Your phone. These are all things that you own. Your social media account should be no different. Because you own it, you make the rules. You’re the boss. If you don’t want people showing up at your house uninvited, you can make that a rule. If you don’t want people eating and smoking in your car, that can be a rule, too. Your social media account can have rules to help it run smoothly. Make whatever setting changes you need to make to ensure that you have a stress free and pleasant social media experience. If you need to moderate your comments to prevent trolling, or any other unwanted responses or behavior, do it. If you decide that you would rather answer 10 comments a day to avoid becoming overwhelmed, do it. If you don’t want explicit content on your timeline or reader, you don’t have to have it. Don’t be afraid to take control of your social media account and set some ground rules to make sure you stay a happy person online.
I hope all of these little lessons of mine will help many of you on your social media journeys. As always, I would love to hear from you guys in the comment section below. Please tell me what are some of the things that you learned while scrollin’ and clickin’? I’m sure others would love to read your experiences, as well.
Much love guys! ♥️
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